Hmm...This is one question that has plagued the human mind right from the time we understood emotions..I don't think science can put a time scale on exactly when we started feeling emotions. Did a caveman have emotions? Or did it evolve as the human brain evolved and humans started becoming social..Did a caveman feel sorrow when he lost his friend..? Did a caveman feel love for his wife?? Did he feel the care for his children?? What is emotion?? What is love? What is care?
I remember my growing up times when one day back from school, i saw a few cute looking puppies playing on the road, They were so cute, i wanted to take one of them home. The moment i picked up one of them, i heard a growl and i could see its mother about to pounce on me. I ran as if there was no tomorrow and to this day i get scared even looking at puppies.Well does this mean dogs also have emotions and is it very different to what we feel. Our emotions may be more complicated but isn't it also a bit selfish?
The love that a dog has it for its babies is unconditional care. But can care be called as love? Does that mean the dog loved its puppies?
Every man or women would have heard this term 'unconditional love'. What does it mean? Every one expects unconditional love..Its said that when some one cares for some one unconditionally, that's when its called 'love'.
I just cannot understand the difference between care and love.
Parents love their kids , give them the best of things but don't they expect that kids take care of them when they are old. Couples love each other but isn't it that they need some one to share their life with, some one to make them feel special and the fear of losing them makes them love?
When can you say really that you love some one..? What's the ultimate test of love? How do you know that you love some one?
Some would say that for love you have to lose. You have to feel the space left by that person cannot be filled by anything else in this world to make you realize love.But isn't it a bit far fetched to know love. For that you have to kill that person first or make them go away.
But is is really the case, can you care for some one so much but then let go? Can you really disconnect yourself with some one whom you love so much. Like the dog does to its puppies once it grows up.
Some would say yes, There are cases when couples love each other and then they end up moving apart due to unavoidable circumstances. Most of the cases, kids move out of their parents place when they grow up or parents make their kids go out to make them independent.
Does this mean we are no different to a dog. I guess not. The dog doesn't think about the puppies once they have gone. The cycle of life starts again for the dog. But for a human, its not so easy, our emotions are much evolved and much more complicated.
People move on but they carry their baggage throughout their life. They love and lose and love again in the cycle of emotional life. Each time they lose some one, they repent on things that went wrong and try to change in their new relationship. Then they commit some new ones and the whole cycle again and again and again.
Loving some one doesn't mean letting go. Loving some one means keeping them close to you. Making sure you don't lose them.
In this complex modern life , we care for our loved ones but we rarely love our loved ones. Until the time comes when we get the meaning of love, we are going to keep on losing the people we cared about.
The best way to love some one is to think every day what your life is going to be without them..!!
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